Marriage After Baby
Everything is about to change. In 16 weeks, it will no longer just be Trevor and I doing life. Our days of eating chicken & waffles at 2am, binge-watching Stranger Things on our day off, going to concerts every chance we get and spending rainy days in bed are over for now. Schedules will outweigh spontaneity and alone time will be minimal.
So... yes, I'm scared. Scared about how it will change our marriage, our connection and our friendship. How do you keep romance alive in the midst of dirty diapers? I've talked to some amazing mentors (thank you Nana!) to compile a little list and answer just that. Scroll on to check out their answers and share your own experiences.
MAKE MARRIAGE YOUR PRIORITY
The two of you came before babies and you'll be there once they move out. You're a team and making your relationship the priority will help you be better partners and parents. Don't look up in 18 years and realize you don't know your spouse because you put your kids before them for so long.
BE LIGHTHEARTED... EVEN WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE IT
A lot of stress comes with raising kids. When you're sleep deprived and hungry, joking may seem like the last thing you want to do but it can keep you going. Try mixing in humor, even if it has to do with your stress of a messy house and crying baby. This is only a season. When you look back, will you be proud of how you handled it?
SERVE EACH OTHER
Hubby took diaper duty all night? Make him coffee in the morning. And guys, the postpartum road is long and tough - do what you can to relive her stress.
JUST DO FUN STUFF
Okay so, date night may not come around quite as often but try your best to have it once a week. This not only strengthens your marriage but it shows your kids the commitment you have to one another. Take every chance you can to connect - lay on the floor with Chinese takeout, turn the TV off and really talk.
What advice do you have for keeping your marriage strong postpartum and beyond? Share in the comments below!
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