To the New Mom

You probably weren't fully expecting the physical or emotional changes you would face postpartum. Being a brand new mom, you feel like someone else completely. You've transformed into a new person, raising a new person. It's emotionally rattling, all-consuming and the hormones seem to control you. Late-night cries can be overwhelming (especially when its constant in babies with colic or reflux) and adjusting to a new normal is easier said than done. 

In the midst of sleeplessness and dry shampoo, find rejuvenation in the form of sweet snuggles, first smiles and soft coos. Take a deep breath. Let those moments settle you. Set aside cleaning and soak in the cuddling. You're doing the best you can. Scientifically, it takes a year and a half for a woman to recover emotionally from having a baby so don't push to 'have it all together 'for the sake of appearances. Show yourself grace, be patient with those around you and don't be anxious about keeping schedules, doing things 'perfectly' or all of the things that could go wrong.

You may be reading this covered in spit-up, surrounded by laundry and painfully nursing; wondering why this stage isn't as beautiful as Instagram made it seem. But know that you are seen. What you are doing is important and your baby loves you. The season of difficulty gets easier every week. You're doing a great job.