Have you seen her Insta?

Before an event at SXSW a few weeks ago, I sat behind a few fashion bloggers. Laptops pulled out, they were going through another blogger's social accounts and giving some great commentary. (*Note my digital sarcasm). I sat with my eyebrows raised as I listened to them talk about her following counts, the season of handbag she had, the fact that she didn't have an iPhone 6 and how much better at blogging they were. At that point, I think I actually became embarrassed to call myself a blogger.

Let's not act like this is just an issue with bloggers though. I've witnessed it with so many women and in myself. You probably think the girls above are terrible but if we're being honest, they were just saying what a lot of us think.

Either "I feel good about myself because I'm better than her" or "I feel bad about myself because she's better than me." Neither are good for us. 

The comparison game is so real. Sometimes it's so subconscious that we don't even realize it. When someone accomplishes something, has a great gift or does something well, it's almost like our first instinct is to compare and not celebrate. That doesn't mean we can't beat it, it just means that we have to work hard to. 

There will always be someone who is prettier, richer and more successful. But that doesn't make them any better than you. - Mom

I'm just starting to realize how much I compare myself to other women. At the makeup counter, at the gym, at the mall, on social media, in magazines, at restaurants... need I continue? We all do it but it's time to start understanding that just because someone else is beautiful doesn't mean you aren't. We're all so uniquely wired that trying to compare is like apples and oranges. I am not you. You are not me. And that is how it's supposed to be. 

There's nothing wrong with having the newest, nicest and most expensive unless it becomes the standard to which you judge, define and hold self-worth.

Embrace the things you love about yourself and the things you don't, too. You're beautiful. (Don't let the fact that it's cliche erase the truth of it.) Until you stop comparing, you'll never be content. 

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